What happens when you feel rejected or you are rejected? Rejection means the refusing of a proposal, idea, or you as a whole, it means the act of not accepting. We all are striving hard for acceptance. We want to be liked, accepted but what happens when we face rejections, we don’t want to accept it, and we want to reject it like we were rejected. Rejection is considered as one cause and the consequences of depression. It is hard to take rejections, it pushes us to a phase of depression, anxiety, where we feel like a failure, we feel worthless, we start doubting our capabilities and abilities like we are not good enough. But is it what rejection has to do all with?
When our ideas or proposals are rejected, we feel something is breaking inside us, is it self-confidence? Or our egos are hurt? It might be both. We feel pain, immense pain by rejections.
Being unaccepted means you aren’t good enough, you are worthless, or what it stands for.
How do you need to see when you are rejected?
What if I say that rejection is an opportunity for improvement, what if I say rejection is nothing to do with you but with the other person who rejected you. It has different aspects and it depends on you, how you view it as?
Rejection is an opportunity for you to be the best version of yourself. When you look at the brighter side, rejection means you have the potential to grow and reach higher than where you wanted to be but were rejected. It may be that the best is yet to come and that is why you weren’t meant to settle for less.
And at times if you feel like you were good enough for it or someone has rejected you because of their insecurities, it means you were fit for it but they were scared that you were better than them which compelled them to reject you. It can happen in both personal and professional life. But remember a few rejections have nothing to do with you rather do with their insecurities and jealousy.
It may be very hard to take rejections or to cope up with them. Studies show that people with a higher sense of self-worth, as well as individuals with more social power, handle rejection better than those with lower self-esteem and less social influence. People with lower self-esteem find it very difficult and it may even make them anxious and increase their social anxiety. Utopia life coach has come with some tips to help you to deal with rejections.
Rejections will bring out all the negativity and will fill you with negative self-talk that will make you feel worthless. You need to change these negative words to positive self-talk. Remember what we feed in our mind is what makes us, even the most powerful people must have faced rejections and there is nothing wrong with facing rejection. If you start telling yourself “I am not good enough” Or “It is my fault” it will only bring you down and won’t do anything good to you. Start having positive self-talk that will build you, boost you, and make you a better version of yourself.
Self-confidence is a savior:
No one is worthless, no matter who says so. We are humans and we have our own worth till we realize it. If you lack self-confidence and feel worthless, it won’t be late for others to make you feel the same way. instead of thinking about it, focus on building it. if you might have grown up in an environment in which you were told that you are useless or worthless, there is a chance of you been grown up with a lack of self-confidence, so focus on building your confidence and feed yourself with good thoughts.
This time will pass:
Whenever we are rejected we feel hurt, we hold this moment for a long and try to define our whole worth by such one situation or incident but remember one rejection can’t diminish the worth of everything you achieved till date. It is just a phase and it will pass by, you just need to remind yourself that you are not worthless and you are reviving back.
Be it in love or professional life, don’t hold it. Let it flow, let it go, if you are hurt, cry and feel the pain but remember to cry all for once and not to shed tears for the same reason again. Once you are done crying you are letting it go and you will focus on building yourself, your self-confidence.
It depends on you whether you will let rejections take over your dreams and growth by stopping yourself from trying again or you will bounce back becoming stronger and better than ever before.
If you have ever faced rejections and you are finding it difficult to cope up with it, contact a psychologist for help.
Recommending Psychologists and Therapists are
1. Life Coach Steffi Prasad - Psychologist & Therapists - Uptopia Life Coach in Siliguri, West Bengal, India.
2. Khusboo Tomar - Psychologist: Centre for Forensic & Clinical Psychology